Biography of Alexander Udovenko

Find: as a result of publicity, it was possible to arrange Sasha in our family only with the help of the prosecutor's office by large parents Father Peter Udovenko and Mother Alexander from Bataysk Rostov region took Nina and Sasha - blood sister and brother to the family. A happy incident introduced them to Nina. And in order to reunite two children in their family, the spouses had to literally fight the guardianship authorities, contacting the prosecutor's office.

Father Peter and Mother Alexander with children. A neighbor died, aunt took her son. The time was dysfunctional, the end of the 10ths. I saw what difficulties they had to go through. My mother helped them a lot, she actually raised this boy. My parents themselves really wanted to take the adopted child, but there was a move from Ukraine to Russia, the sale of housing, the need to settle in a new place.

There was a collapse of the USSR, and it was necessary to survive ourselves. For my parents, the foster family remained just a dream on which I grew up. Read also - 5 steps to accept the child in the family when I began to meet with Peter, my future husband, we immediately agreed that we will have adopted children. He grew up among friends who themselves were adopted children, so for him this was also the norm.

When we got married, I was 19, my husband was immediately born to my husband, I had to equip life, so we decided to wait with the adoptive ones. As soon as we had documents for our own house, we went to the guardianship on the same day and filed an application. We went the same path as other foster parents, when the profiles are a million, but there are no children.

I called the guardianship, but in response I heard: “The direction was given to the child” and the like. We decided to go around all available custody in our region. First, they visited all the guardianship of the Rostov region, then they were going to go to the Stavropol Territory. I continued to monitor the bases. On the site, adopt. Understanding that he had just appeared, and no one can take it over the weekend, tell the husband: “On Monday at 8 in the morning we must stand at the door of the regional operator Rostov so that they do not even have the opportunity to answer that the direction was given to him.” And here we are in custody, took a direction and went to the orphanage.

A one and a half year old girl was held by the head of us to the manager, with whom the family couple came to meet. I immediately had a foreboding that they would not take it. Initially, I didn’t want the girl, but then I grabbed my husband by the hand and said: “Let's take her! She said that she was not ready to give him to our family. When we left, I asked about the girl and heard: "She has her own problems." Alexandra and Nina - her mother also changed with her daughter.

My husband took my hand, and I screamed the head: “Call us when you know something about this girl! We immediately arrived and signed consent. Problems with Nina spoke about, were related to the fact that she was a child without status, i.e., her mother left her in the system almost immediately after birth under the painting that she fell into a difficult life situation, and she disappeared, so the court was impossible to conduct.

She was a very injured child, as if impregnated with grief, seemed to smell of pain from her. The girl was like glass, she walked as if she had not her legs, but crutches. Gradually, she began to thaw, but the pain did not pass. Only at the last meeting before going home, she first smiled at a curve, a timid smile. We brought her a musical duck with which she did not part.

When Nina was brought to us, she always frantically squeezed this toy stained in porridge with one hand.

Why shouldn't children live in orphanages? The main evil is in the absence of love. My husband, when he sees an orphanage, says: "Here it is, a place of pain and sorrow." Can a person grow up successful and full -fledged without love? When we took Nina, she had no emotions. She swayed, ate cookies, clinging to her favorite duck, her eyes were wide open. At home, her calls began to vomit.

It became clear to me why the girl weighed seven kilograms at a year and a half with a height of 74 cm. This has become Nina now. According to Alexandra, people often do not for some reason do not think that the appearance of an adopted child can bring joy to the family. She rushed all the time: she stumbled, scared, began to eat, saw food. As a result, I began to feed her at night, because Nina ate well only when she had a completely relaxed nervous system.

I put the alarm for the night and gave her food every three hours. After a couple of months, she began to weigh about 10 kg. Then we began to build a more normal food regime. We took Nina in December, and the issue of food was resolved only in the fall. But now she eats the best. She just pressed into me, was always in my arms. Shortly before the appearance of Nina, I finished breastfeeding my son, but the girl herself wanted to take her chest and again caused me lactation.

I thought that such urges could only be in newborns, but the child who is in deprivation lives on instincts.For several months I breastfeed Nina. For all of us, it was on the verge of fantasy. After that, the daughter began to come to life, bold. By the age of two, she stopped taking her chest. This was the starting point of her revival, as if due to breastfeeding, she compensated for everything she needed.

He was almost six months old, he was also an invisible child without status. Read also-4 main questions about the health groups of orphans when we took his sister, they told us that they cannot give him to us. The time passed, and my husband and I spoke all the time about Sasha. In mid -August, I learned through the Kirov custody of its whereabouts and called the guardianship, which was responsible for him.

They were very surprised there, having learned that he had a sister. We did not see this boy, we did not know that he had health, but decided to take him in any case, so we asked us to tell us as soon as it could be taken. The guardianship recorded our request. I regularly viewed the database. That day I unconsciously waited for a trick. On Friday evening, when the base was renewed again, I saw Sasha’s questionnaire.

Sasha: In the photo in the FBD and in the family. Alexandra writes about Nina and Sasha on his blog that they are children of the war of their time, the victims of events are not clear to us, but never lonely. The operator left the answer. Then I call the custody and ask how it happened? And they answer me: - It so happened that we give him to another family.

The human factor. My subscribers helped me a lot. This is not just subscribers - this is my family. I feel them like a wall behind me. As a result of publicity, it was possible to solve the issue with the construction of Sasha in our family with the help of the prosecutor's office. It was the prosecutor's office that stopped the process of any structure of this child into the family until the circumstances are clarified.

Meanwhile, we needed to quickly collect documents for Sasha. When we went to the Bataisk hospital with round eyes full of shock from what was happening, we were taken by the hand, spent all the doctors and made documents in a day. The disgrace certificate was also able to make quickly. For the execution of all the documents in the custody, I sent the priest, because I was exhausted by this whole struggle, and three more children at home.

It so happened that it was on that day in the custody that the father signed the consent to Sasha. We took the boy, never once saw him. It was a member of our family in absentia. Since the prosecutor's office continued to find out what went wrong, we, coming to meetings with Sasha, felt under constant supervision. The orphanage was a km from us, but we did not miss a single visit.

Such a child is the dream of any adoptive parent, I think that is why they found a family so quickly, forgetting about us. But for us, his health was just a pleasant bonus - we would take it so. Before the New Year, the prosecutor's office decided to give us a gift and give Sasha. They did everything so that the child would meet the holidays in the family.