Biographies of happy families

And is it possible? After all, monogamy during its occurrence is based on a man’s violence against a woman. She was never true, for women, if they did not change her husbands at the level of the “party” stage, then cheated on them at a spiritual level. That is why Christ considered the latter a sin too. I come to the conclusion that a monogamous family, which existed for several centuries, has never been monogamous in essence.

And there is no need to pour crocodiles on it, as the Hanji and hypocrites do it. The creation of a truly monogamous family is possible only in the case when men and a woman will enter into marriage, the very “real”, economically independent, physically healthy, spiritually mature self -actualized people. Only an union based on equal rights can become monogamous both in legal and social form, and will not contradict polygamous nature, since it will be continuously updated and resumed.

Of course, so far this is only an apple of target. You will not always get into it, but at least you know where you need to aim. Only in such a family is the problem of marital infidelity. And one who at least a little in a state of monogamy with completed sexual relations understands how wonderful it is. But, alas, there are still very few such families. Here are the main advantages of monogamy.

At the economic level. It is difficult to imagine the damage that the society and the individual, not brought to the end, bring it to the end, it has yet to be calculated by economists. By the way, incomplete sex takes much more time than complete. I want to give one common situation as an example. He, a young surgeon living with his parents, at the training “Inventory of communication partners”, noted that he spends up to 7 hours a day on his sexual partner.

He has a relationship with her at the "Komsomol" level. They are found no more than one or two times a week for no more than 2-3 hours, but it spends on it for about 7 hours a day, or almost 50 hours a week, since sleepless nights spends in endless mental conversations with his lover. This distracts his attention from work during the day, creates a depressed mood, etc. I invited him to evaluate one such hour in dollars an approximate earnings of a qualified doctor in the West and the earnings to which he strove.

When he considered losses, his love for his partner immediately passed, labor productivity increased. At the personal level. Self -esteem and self -confidence increase, confidence in sexual qualities gives confidence in business. Bern generally believes that by behavior in production we can judge the behavior of a person in sexual relations. At the physiological level. Sex strengthens health and is a good prevention of many disorders, although it itself is not a treatment method.

Sex exists exclusively for very healthy people. You can not use sex as a treatment method. But the most economical sex is sex in the family, provided, of course, that it is full -fledged. Calculate how much sex is outside the family framework. To agree, meet, a gift, to make, so that no one finds out. This is also with a good postsexual stage. And if the latter still add specific diseases and conflicts that the sexual partner is satisfied?

At the interpersonal level. In the process of communicating with people of the opposite sex, full friendly relations arise. If you agree that the recognition of the superiority of one gender over another is incorrect, then you should agree with the statement that families built on the idea of ​​sex inequalities will always be inferior, unhappy. True monogamy, because and since it cannot be avoided, then you should not fight it, but it is better to take care of its most harmless development, if family relations are inferior.

So, production sex can only be avoided if the family is happy. But for this you need to determine what a perfect happy family should be or find it in our society. We determined the theoretical standard of a happy family. This is a marital union of two self -actualized people. They have general production in which they complement each other, and they have excellent sex. Maslow found those about 15 people.

He talks there about what they have love and what is sex, but does not describe a single happy family. But the theory of theory, but it was necessary to find happy families, and we began to search.

With our education system, it is difficult to imagine that we can have happy families. Since most people we have neurotics, they make up their family according to a neurotic addition, and two misfortunes cannot make one happiness. Frank in search of historically established happy families over the past 3 thousand years has found only five of them. In all, there was a community of spirit and interests, i.e., of course, these were personalities who left a great trace in history.

But, probably, happy families also met among ordinary people, we just know little about them.The first century of our era. Pliny loved his wife. Here is what he wrote about her: “She adds to her virtue the taste for a good syllable: my labors go through her hands, she reads them, re -reads and even teaches by heart,” actually she was his editor. The VI century celebrated the love of the Frankish King of Clovis I to his wife.

They say that Rubens was happy in family life: the first wife was his model and adviser, the second was also a common cause. You can learn from the wife of the great composer Johann Sebastian Bach. Here are her notes a few years after his death: “My only desire was to make him pleasant. Most of all, I sought to learn how to play the organ in order to better understand its compositions.

If I had not overcome all the difficulties of playing the organ, he would play in front of me, like in front of fish. But I, his wife, did not want to be stupid and deaf fish. ” And again the common cause. Love was mutual and long. She survived her husband for several years. And now I will offer you three points that are characteristic of a happy family. Each spouse has his own business spins around himself.

Everyone’s affairs in some part coincide, but do not merge completely, it is not at all necessary to have the same professions. This can be a writer and editor, businessman and lawyer, banker and director of the plant. The main thing, there should be no complete merger. The common thing unites the souls. Then it’s not scary if you work in different places. The main thing is that the souls are together.

Then they will connect the bodies. After all, the writer writes one in his office, but takes into account the opinion of his editor, that is, when she edits his books, there is no body nearby, but his soul is in her hands. Sooner or later, their bodies will meet. They will discuss her edit. But this does not mean that the case will certainly end in sex. But if both of him and she have these problems are resolved, and the bodies are suitable for each other for a long time, then sex between them becomes inevitable.

By the way, a good family can form. The same can happen with these and unnamed pairs, if they are of different sexes. And this will happen after a well -completed business. And if the sex is still good, then what else is needed. After all, things have long been in order. Human full sex with all the above stages. You can figuratively represent partners in the form of the Sun and Earth.

The earth rotates around its axis, the sun is around its own. The earth will stop rotating - it will fall in the sun and disappear, the sun will stop rotating, and the earth will fly into outer space. In general, family constancy should be based on its dynamics. It is supported by the constant movement of each spouses up in the path of personal growth. An example of such a family was the union of Nikolai Roerich and his wife Elena.

Anyone who is familiar with their history knows that they have always been together. He became a great artist, she created her own philosophical and religious system “Living Ethics”. They built a house together, raised children and were aware of each other's work, supporting it with constructive criticism, advice and love. As soon as joint activities are stopped, the family begins to give a roll.